It's okay to say no.
Turn to 'yes' goes well with pleasers which may eventually lead to burnout, distress, and demotivation at a workplace.
Setting appropriate boundaries is crucial to leadership practice as well as to a healthy work environment. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries as a leader is not only vital for your well-being but also essential for creating a more productive and harmonious work environment
It is also important to keep in mind that setting boundaries is a process, and to be effective must address both your work and personal needs to stay sustainable.
If you’re a manager or leader in today’s world, then setting, communicating, and upholding workplace boundaries should be your top priority.
Boundaries in leadership define limits regarding time, responsibilities, personal space, and emotional interactions. They help delineate professional relationships and ensure that leaders and team members know what's acceptable and what's not.
Suppose you’re a leader. It’s the end of the day, and you’re feeling exhausted. Not just physically tired but mentally and emotionally drained. You’ve spent the day putting out fires, answering countless questions, and even doing some of the work that your team is supposed to handle. Meanwhile, your own tasks have piled up, and you’re stressing about how you’re going to get it all done while still having time for family and friends. You may not realize it now, but this situation is an example of what can happen when you don’t set healthy boundaries with your team members.
In the simplest of terms, a healthy boundary clearly distinguishes the self from others and marks clear lines around acceptable versus unacceptable behaviors, communication, treatment, responsibilities, and interactions. These boundaries can be physical, such as personal space, or emotional, such as the ability to separate personal feelings from professional interactions.
A healthy boundary will lower your stress, prevent burnout, protect your mental and physical health, and improve your work-life balance and performance in the long run. It can also help to create a healthy workplace where all team members feel understood and respected.
Unhealthy boundaries are those that are either too rigid or too porous, leading to imbalances in working relationships and interactions. They might manifest as controlling behavior, where one person dictates terms without considering the other's feelings or needs. Conversely, they can also appear as a lack of boundaries, where an individual allows others to overstep their personal limits, often to avoid conflict or gain approval.
An unhealthy boundaries will negatively affect your health or performance.
In the workplace, unhealthy boundaries can lead to issues such as burnout, resentment, and misunderstandings. For example, an employee who cannot say "that is not my job", even when overwhelmed, is exhibiting porous boundaries. On the other hand, a manager who micromanages every aspect of an employee's work, ignoring their autonomy and input, is displaying overly rigid boundaries.
Boundaries in the workplace can be categorized into four main types:
Physical boundaries are essential for creating a comfortable work environment. These include:
Maintaining personal boundaries is crucial for professional relationships:
You may notice discomfort or stress, especially when it repeats. Trust your feelings; if something feels off, it might be a boundary issue. Signs include constant exhaustion, feeling overwhelmed, or receiving unwanted personal questions.
Signs of boundary overstepping include:
First, calmly address the issue with the person involved. Use "I" statements to express your feelings, like "I feel uncomfortable when...". Set clear limits and communicate them. If it continues, involve higher management or HR for resolution.
Boundaries protect your time and energy. When you more effectively manage those resources, you’re not only more productive, but also less stressed and more satisfied at work.
Clear boundaries prevent misunderstandings, reduce stress, and create an environment where everyone knows their roles and responsibilities. This clarity helps in building trust and respect within the team.
Proper boundaries aid in clear communication, reduce burnout, and foster mutual respect among team members.
Here's how you can establish healthy boundaries as a leader at workplace:
Before setting boundaries with others, it's crucial to first recognize your own limits, values, and needs. Take time for self-reflection and introspection.
Learn what makes you feel uncomfortable or overextended at work, and identify your stressors. Pay close attention to any situations or interactions that make you feel uncomfortable, stressed, or overwhelmed.
Also, learn where you invest your time. It will help you to understand what is and what isn't helping. Know when you're being productive, where your time is wasted, and what tasks can be delegated. Based on this reflection, determine what specific boundaries are needed to create a more balanced and manageable work environment. It could also be as simple as needing uninterrupted time for deep work, or setting limits on after-hours communications.
Ask yourself what triggers stress or discomfort and what you need to maintain your well-being. This self-awareness forms the foundation for communicating your boundaries effectively.
Begin by sharing your boundaries in small, manageable conversations. You don't have to lay out all your limits at once. For example, start by letting your team know that you won't be checking emails after a certain time in the evening. Use clear and direct language, focusing on what you need rather than on what others are doing wrong. Applying communication skills effectively helps build understanding and respect over time.
Clear strategies can be put in place to achieve your goals, such as:
Model the behavior you want to see in your team.
As important as it is to clearly define your boundaries on working hours and communications, it is ten times more important to walk your own talk. If you tell your team not to contact you outside of work hours, but then send them emails and expect an immediate response - the boundaries are already broken!
In time, and for a sustainable balanced work environment, you and your teams must respect the set boundaries. Leading by example also shows your team that it's okay to set their own boundaries, stand up for themselves and helps create a culture of respect.
Set aside time for regular one-on-one check-ins with team members. Use these sessions to discuss workload, stress levels, and any boundary-related issues. These check-ins provide a safe space for team members to express their needs and for you to reinforce and adjust boundaries as necessary.
Recognize that boundaries may need to change or adapt over time due to different circumstances, such as a new project or changes in personal life. Be flexible and willing to adjust, but make sure that the core of your boundary—what you need to maintain your well-being and effectiveness—remains intact. Balancing consistency with flexibility allows you to maintain healthy boundaries, even as your situation evolves.
By following these steps, you can establish and maintain healthy boundaries as a leader, promoting a more respectful and productive work environment.